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"We want to talk about sex for one simple reason: sex glorifies God. In fact, God created sex, and everything about it, to glorify himself. He created it to teach us about him and to show us, in a unique way, his beauty and his majesty. "
“The church just doesn’t talk about sex.”

I’ve heard some version of this statement many times over the past few years—which is one reason why I've made it a point to talk regularly and consistently about sex in my time as a pastor. However, one of the dangers I’ve found is that when the church does talk about sex (as it seems to do more and more), it can do it for the same reasons the world likes to talk about sex. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It’s popular. It’s “edgy.” It grabs people’s attention. In fact, Jon Acuff from Stuff Christians Like writes, “If you want to grow your church instantly, do a sermon series about sex.” This is where sermon series titles like: “Great Sex is for You” and “Electric Sex” and “Desperatesexlives.com” came from (Acuff says all three are real!).

Well, we want to talk about sex. But not because no one is talking about it (they are), and not because it will instantly grow our church (it won’t). We want to talk about sex for one simple reason: sex glorifies God. In fact, God created sex, and everything about it, to glorify himself. He created it to teach us about him and to show us, in a unique way, his beauty and his majesty. As John Piper writes, “sexuality is designed by God as a way to know God in Christ more fully.” And, this isn’t just for married couples. Whether you are married or single, your sexuality is an aspect of your humanity that God can use to show you a little bit more about who he is and how much he loves you.

God created us with sexual desires and the ability to experience sexual pleasure so he would have a vocabulary to convey the great love, joy, intimacy, and pleasure we (as his bride) can experience in Christ. He also encapsulated the experience of this love, joy, intimacy, and pleasure in the context of a covenantal union, which teaches us that intense intimacy and covenantal commitment are inseparable, and found ultimately in him. As Paul writes, “This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:32). Sex is about God!

Why should we talk about sex? Because when we understand sex better, we learn more about who God is, and how he relates to us as his bride. So whether you are a newlywed, are single, have been married for decades, or are single again, sex is a topic worth considering. Especially given that, living in our culture, you’re forced to consider it anyways! It’s futile to try to not consider sex or sexuality—but you can redeem the thoughts that have plagued your mind by thinking of them from a God-centered, gospel-infused worldview. Sex is not about the objects of your lust. Sex is not about the fantasies in your mind. Sex is not, ultimately, about you. Sex is about God.

Scott Mehl

Scott serves the church by overseeing leadership, development, global ministries, and counseling/discipleship.

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