“In any situation, the Christian response is love.”

Jesus takes aim at our obsession to get what we think we deserve, and to give others what we think they deserve. Instead of operating our lives on “fairness,” Jesus asks us to operate on love. But how do we do that when our default mode is to live for ourselves and not for others? The gospel opens to door to a grace that leaves us eternally secure and reshaped to love others not based on what they have earned. Christian culture is about love and mercy, not keeping score.

Application Questions

1.  What are some times you feel like others aren’t giving you what you deserve? How do you typically respond in those situations?

2. Try to think of some friends and some enemies (those who make you angry or treat you unfairly). How do you treat them differently? Why?

3. In what ways do you see yourself living “for you” instead of “for others”?

4. What about Jesus’ death for you allows you to live for others? What would that look like in some of the situations above?

5. Be as honest as you can: what holds you back from living this way? What resources do you have in Jesus to make this a reality in your life?

Further Resources

“A Message to Those Who Kill Us” by Father Boules George

“Love Your Enemies” by Ray Ortlund

Love in Hard Places (Chapter 2) by D.A. Carson


Reading Plan and Prayer Guide

Below are scriptures to help you meditate on today’s sermon topic throughout the week:

Monday: 1 Peter 2:21-25
Tuesday:  1 Peter 3:9-12 
Wednesday: Romans 5:1-11
Thursday: Romans 12:9-21
Friday: Philippians 2:1-11

As you meditate on the scriptures above, use these prompts to help you engage with God in prayer:

Insight: Ask God to open your eyes so you can see the truth in his word and how it applies to your life.

Confess: Admit to God the ways you are living for yourself in your attitudes, actions, and relationships.

Wrestle: Work through your honest thoughts, feelings, and emotions with God in prayer.

Request: Ask God to show you how his love can empower you to live for others in your life.

Brian Colmery

Brian serves the church by overseeing preaching and Sunday morning services at Cornerstone.

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