Cornerstone exists because of Jesus. We are a people who have been transformed by the gospel, the good news of Jesus Christ. Through Jesus’ death and resurrection, God has forgiven us and adopted us into his family. Now, we have a whole new life.
Through the gospel, God redeems us, forgives us, and adopts us into his family. The good news of Jesus’ death and resurrection makes each one of us a new creation and gives us a new identity: children of God. This is why we can never think of the church as an organization or a building. The church is actually a family—God’s family, filled with redeemed sinners that are now his children.
Through the gospel, God forgives us, adopts us into his family, and makes us his disciples. This means that the church is not just any family. We are a family formed by God—and sent out with a purpose.
The church is a family that ministers to one another, cares for one another, and builds one another up. Each member of the family is a child of God who is uniquely gifted to bless the family and to be a light in our city.
Just like a vine grows best with a good trellis, our church family grows best with good programs. Our programs and ministries are tailored to support the community and mission God has given us.
"The idea here is that close proximity with another person has a way of wearing down the rough patches and smoothing out the blade so that it can be the most useful tool possible."
I have the best marriage. Forget Romeo and Juliet, Antony and Cleopatra, and Will and Kate. These power couples haven't got anything on Phil and me.
Now, that is not to say that our marriage is by any means storybook, or that we never disagree, lose our temper, or argue.
But the truth is that I really do have the best marriage--the exact marriage that God intends for me. And what makes it the best is so much more than a romance for the ages, or enjoying all of the same activities, or even--ahem--what stays in the bedroom. God has paired me with a wonderful man who desires to become more like Christ. And as we work toward this goal together, God uses Phil’s unique personality, strengths, and even sin to grow and refine me.
Proverbs 27:17 tells us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”
The idea here is that close proximity with another person has a way of wearing down the rough patches and smoothing out the blade so that it can be the most useful tool possible.
God’s design for marriage involves a good deal of sharpening. When we become Christians, God begins molding and shaping our lives. The term “Christian” quite aptly describes what He is turning us into: “little Christs,” image bearers of His Son. In marriage, God wisely pairs us with a person who can chip away at the marble, often by simple proximity. I’m mixing metaphors a bit here, but hopefully you get the point. When we endeavor in a committed, intimate relationship like marriage, situations arise that uncover sin we may have hidden away for years. I am often amazed at the new vulnerabilities marriage uncovers in me. I took a good, solid detour in my college and post-college years where I remained unchallenged by the self-sacrifice that a good relationship requires. Much of my sin lingered under the surface, but God is now using my marriage to draw it out. And like actual blade sharpening, it hurts and sparks fly.
I am not ashamed to describe my marriage this way. It may sound strange, but I actually delight in the ways that Phil and I clash. It’s not necessarily fun while we are in the thick of it, but once we talk through a particular issue I am always glad we went there. Even in my limited five years, I am starting to see God changing each of us for the better.
Of course, it’s not all hard work. We do a lot of laughing, musing, and adventure-seeking too. Almost daily, I discover new depths to the wisdom of God's pairing, and I'm thankful for the whole lot of it.
Join us for the Valentine’s Banquet on Saturday, February 7. You will hear from a panel of seasoned couples in the church about the awesome ways God has grown each of them through their unique marriage.
Meredith serves Cornerstone with the Women’s Ministry and as a Global Liaison.
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