Cornerstone exists because of Jesus. We are a people who have been transformed by the gospel, the good news of Jesus Christ. Through Jesus’ death and resurrection, God has forgiven us and adopted us into his family. Now, we have a whole new life.
Through the gospel, God redeems us, forgives us, and adopts us into his family. The good news of Jesus’ death and resurrection makes each one of us a new creation and gives us a new identity: children of God. This is why we can never think of the church as an organization or a building. The church is actually a family—God’s family, filled with redeemed sinners that are now his children.
Through the gospel, God forgives us, adopts us into his family, and makes us his disciples. This means that the church is not just any family. We are a family formed by God—and sent out with a purpose.
The church is a family that ministers to one another, cares for one another, and builds one another up. Each member of the family is a child of God who is uniquely gifted to bless the family and to be a light in our city.
Just like a vine grows best with a good trellis, our church family grows best with good programs. Our programs and ministries are tailored to support the community and mission God has given us.
“Often, when our friends come to us with difficult struggles, we can feel in over our heads. That might be the best emotion, actually, for it will keep us humble and remind us to be careful in our responses. But know that God's word is full of truth and life, and the body of believers is meant to go through these things together.”
In between our daily tasks at work and home, we are constantly called upon by those around us to give input into their lives. Whether it’s suggesting which lunch option might be the best, debating the latest novel or Netflix show, or delving into the more complicated issues like whether or not to online date, how to handle disciplining the kids, or trying to figure out ways to help a depressed friend, we advise those in our lives all the time. So when you’re hanging out with your friends, chatting and catching up, are you giving good advice? Or are you just making it up as you go, often accidentally sharing opinions ungrounded in truth? One of the main purposes of the collection of Proverbs in the Bible is to teach us to seek and gain wisdom, an important result of which is to then be able to speak this into the lives of those around us. Here’s a selection of Solomon’s thoughts on giving good advice, from Proverbs 12:
vs 5-6 “The thoughts of the righteous are just; the counsels of the wicked are deceitful. The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the mouth of the upright delivers them.”
vs 15-19 “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult. Whoever speaks the truth gives honest evidence, but a false witness utters deceit. There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment.”
vs. 25-26 “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad. One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”
Here are 5 steps to help you consider how to go from a unwitting, accidental advice-giver to one who offers wise counsel:
I write this knowing I have a long way to go myself in following these 5 steps, so I hope you will all join me in renewing our efforts to be wise counselors to our friends and family! May we become a family of believers who follow Paul’s advice in Colossians 4:6, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”
Fawn currently works as the Client Services Director at a local pregnancy center and serves Cornerstone in the Biblical Counseling ministry.
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